Self Help Book

1

Sad Children and A Card

Dear readers, this book is a recipe of struggles and battles, some lost and some that were won. I advise you to be prepared to face strong emotions while reading this book, and I also guide you to reach out for help if you are feeling depressed, anxious, or just need to talk to someone. Remember there are people out there that can help you.

I will not be using real names) for confidentiality.
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Ah yes, grade 2, what a year, Mrs. Bergy, and the yogurt Incident. I believe I may have had depression back in 2008 when I think about it. My friends- Ray, Karla, and I think maybe Daniel, those guys were trying to get me to be happy, I was sitting at the table, looking down, hair shielding my eyes, I was the sad child that sort of made them sad too. Before I get too deep into the details, back in grade 2 Karla, Ray, Lilli, and I were all good friends.

It wasn’t until grade 5 that things changed. I guess when you grow older people change? Or maybe when you have a new kid come to school and they just completely change your friendships. It could also be that until grade 5 you don’t know what popularity is.

We, in grade 4 were still playing telephone at recess and pretending to be baby wolves and were howling as we crawled around the ground outside in the snow. Ray had put snow in her mouth and of course we all followed her, I believe Ray was always playing mother, Karla did sometimes too. It was always Jessica, Karla, Ray, Lilli, Jasmine, and Daniel that played pretend. Oh Daniel. He was always being funny, he could be the highlight of the day sometimes. No, I didn’t have a crush on him. Anyways Ray put snow in her mouth and I did too, but Karla, I can just hear Karla right now saying Ewe get that out of your mouth! That’s gross!” Well, yes Karla was amazing. They were all amazing until grade 5 when there was only Telephone at recess and Grounders, all the guys except Daniel were out playing football or soccer occasionally.

Emilia was my friend as well, she loved sports, I did too, in fact I still do. Other than that, I suppose in summer Delia, who was another friend of mine would hang with Ariel and our friend group, we would do flips on the 3 bars that were on the sand pit and sometimes just sit on the top of the monkey bars the whole recess.
So here we are, I’m sitting, hair covering my face inside the classroom, I don’t remember what subject it was but I do remember I was sad. My friends were worried so they took some paper and wrote me a card. I don’t know exactly what it said, but I remember it was something like feel better Vicky, we care about you. they were trying to be nice, trying to make me smile, however I was too upset with something that had happened, and so I just said thanks or something like that.
So, this chapter of the book is trying to explain to you that yes, people change, and even though people are changing, it doesn’t mean that you must erase all your memories of the good things that happened. I’m saying that because, I, myself did just that. I’m barely starting to remember all those things that happened. I wiped the good things along with the bad things out of my mind. It all started coming back when a girl named Sheri, who was kind of my friend back in 08, but we were always fighting, (If you want to get a glimpse into some of the details I’m talking about, you can skip to chapter two, however I advise you to continue reading.)

At first I was ridiculously angry that she had come, in my head I was thinking “She’s come to ruin my life, she’s going to ruin it all, I’ve got so many friends and now it’s all going to be destroyed.”

Of course, my previous counselor had told me, “By saying that, all you’re doing is writing a prophecy saying that you are going to feel that way and thus you are going to feel that way.” I was furious that, that was all she had to say about the situation. I tried not to feel that way, but no matter how hard I tried I couldn’t shake the feeling. She would look at me, I would completely ignore her even if she said hi to me. I wasn’t being very sociable, and I knew I wasn’t, but hey, I felt that she was my enemy and if I did anything nice to her she would destroy me.

Myth: Being nice to your enemy is going to make them feel as if they have won the battle.

Truth: Being nice to your enemy is going to make them feel a tiny bit frustrated and they are going to back off because they can tell that they aren’t getting at you.

Either way, now in 2016, I am still not friends with her, in fact she is not fond of me, I try to be nice, try to remind her of things that happened when we were younger, one of which is mentioned in the next chapter. Those things just made her furious at me, it’s not my fault she can’t get over the past. The past is in the past.

Top Tip 101: The past is in the past, you’ve got to live in the present, get over the past and deal with what’s at stake now. If you’re constantly sticking your nose in the past you’re just going to get stuck, you won’t move on and if you do you’re going to have a whole lot of damn ugly moments with people who are from your past that have already carried on with their life. It’s time to focus on more important situations like who your true friends are, what really matters.

 

2

The Many Unfortunate Events of Sheri and Vicky

Grade 4, Mrs. Veraut (probably spelt wrong) was an amazing teacher! If it wasn’t for her I probably would have been in deep trouble, more than I was already in.

Sheri, Vicky, and the Littlest Pet Shop Sandwich

Remember this is in grade 4, I didn’t know any better. Besides Sheri and I are somewhat related, and when I say that I’m not happy about it. She was always annoying me, I mean like really annoying me, in gym class she would sit there and be annoying. I was what, maybe 10 or 9? Anyways it was lunch, and I was sick and tired of her. So, I had the perfect opportunity when she had showed me her Littlest Pet Shop (one of those mini ones), and she went to the washroom. So, what did I do? Of course, I stuck that little pet shop into her sandwich.

When she got back and bit into her sandwich I was laughing and she didn’t know why and then she bit and she realized she couldn’t find her pet shop and then her tooth hit something hard, oh man, was she ever angry. She told the teacher on me after I pleaded with her not to tell the teacher. I was in deep trouble, was it worth it? Yes, it was worth it. She had started crying, saying she could’ve been seriously injured and that she could’ve swallowed it. Once again, she was annoying me, couldn’t she take anything as a joke? Okay, now when I look back at it, I can see that, that is not something you should be joking about. She was right and I was wrong.

Sheri, Vicky, and those Gym Assemblies

Oh yes, grades probably 4-6 were awful when it came time for gym assemblies. I don’t know why, she was just constantly annoying me somehow, I don’t even completely remember. I just remember that she annoyed me and so what I did, was, I kept jabbing my foot into her butt.

Okay, reality check, who wants to stick their foot into someone else’s butt? Apparently, I did. It did the trick, she got frustrated and would turn around and whisper like as if she was yelling “Would you quit that?!” I wouldn’t though, and finally she would tell the teacher and I would be like “What are you talking about? I didn’t do any such thing, wow Sheri.” I would have this look on my face while telling her that, that was like goodness gracious stop lying and stop making me disgusted face.

The teacher just told her to sit elsewhere, voila! It worked, she would go sit elsewhere, and I’d be happy. I hated it when she sat near me, it drove me crazy, it drove me insane!

Sheri, Vicky, and the birthday card

Okay, grade 6, I invited Sheri over for my birthday and we had been pretty cool and happy for a while, so I thought, why not? Let’s give this thing a shot and go with the flow! Ummm… that was not a good idea, at the end of the day it was a disaster. We had been arguing and it was crazy, I mean crazy. I don’t remember what Sheri did, but she did something that was enough to make me go up to her while she was at her locker and demand to be given the birthday card back. She protested but I insisted, and I didn’t get it back, I believe she ripped it. So I just walked away angry and so did Sheri. When I got home my mom asked about the birthday cards and I told her about Sheri, which in turn didn’t go over well. My mom made me apologize the next day, I offered the invitation again, but, she just refused (understandably).

Putting it all together

Now that we have went through 3 little incidents about Sheri and me, we can come to see how we really don’t get along. I must say though, I am sorry for what I did, I was quite mean, and you know putting a pet shop in her sandwich. Who does that type of thing? Bullies, wait does that mean I was a bully? Shoot, crap, that can’t be, she was the one who was being mean to me. Sure, I hid her shoes on her once in a while, but someone did that to me so I thought she did it to me, so I did it back.

Yeah I wasn’t very nice. Either way, I can look back at all this now and laugh, wonder why I would do that? The good thing is, I have moved on, I am not angry about the way Sheri annoyed me, I’m happy that she’s alive, that she’s got friends.

What we learn in this chapter, is that you need to be able to realize if you did something wrong. If you were the one who was wrong and not Sheri (or whoever it is in your case). I admit, I was wrong, I did things that weren’t nice. However, I am giving advice saying “You have got to admit you’re wrong, say sorry.” Yet, I haven’t done that myself, I haven’t gone up to Sheri and said sorry. I physically can’t, I’m too selfish and I love my pride too much, so much that I can’t admit it to Sheri that I’m wrong. It’s something we all have to work on, our pride.

Top Tip 101: If you don’t like someone, don’t invite that person to your birthday party. Why go through all the trouble of taking the card back? Don’t be mean back to someone else just because they are annoying you and have been mean to you. If you’re blaming the problem on being related, think about it twice, unless you’re in the Penner family, (which I’m not but my mom was born as a Penner) because if you’re in the Penner family, I understand why you’re having family problems like getting along with your cousin. It’s not just a joke, there’s something in the Penner gene that causes this commotion that goes on.

 

3

Standing Up Against Peer Pressure

It was 2008, I was in grade 3, and my “sister” Vivian,(she’s not really my sister, I don’t even know her anymore, I just called her sister because I always wanted a sister and she and her dad were living at our place.) had taken me up to where they were staying, the loft in the Quonset. She was sitting on the bed, the room smelled of musty smoke and dead air that could choke your lungs. In her hands was a type of cigarette that she was rolling, before she lighted it and began to smoke it.

Later on that week she and I were outside of the barn, talking, I was sitting on the fence gate and she was standing smoking a cigarette. Before I knew it, she had offered me a cigarette and I tried to smoke it. It was one of the most awful things I had ever placed in my mouth, I began coughing and threw it on the ground. Vivian immediately picked it up and scolded me for throwing it on the ground, told me I could have burnt the barn down. Vivian also told me not to tell anyone about this. However my brother shortly came in afterwards and I told him he should try one, Vivian was not too happy about that, so when my brother said no, she told him not to tell anyone ever.

That didn’t go over too well, sure, he kept the secret for about a week. However he was getting quite angry and emotional, he and my dad were getting quite angry at each other, my brother was swearing and my parents didn’t understand why. I had ran upstairs and hid.

The truth will always come out, and it did. My brother told my parents what had happened and they called me down. I proceeded to come down and told them that, yes, what my brother said was true.

I didn’t get into much trouble, I told them how Vivian had pressured me into doing it. Not even 2 weeks later, Vivian and her dad weren’t living at our place anymore. Most likely because my dad found out that Vivian and her dad were illegally smoking up in the Quonset.

 

Thinking back to it now, I realize that I succumbed to peer pressure, I was only 8 but it is still something we have to watch out for. Peer pressure is one of the leading causes of youth getting in trouble, bullying, jail time, and many more scenarios.

Have you ever fell victim to peer pressure? I know it can be hard to fight it, I didn’t win, and I fell victim to it as well. Next time you are pressured by your peers, whether it be about choosing a certain movie, choosing whether you’re going to rob watermelons from Farmer Ben’s watermelon patch (Berenstain Bears) or just choosing not to go to writing club because your friends say its lame. You have got to stand up for yourself, voice your own opinion.

I want to give you a quick little quiz, to test how much you have learned so far. There will be a scenario, and from the scenario I want you to choose which would be the best option for Martha. Remember, at the end of this book you will total up all your points to see how well you did.

 

Scenario #1

Martha is walking home with her friend Lizzy who happens to be in a wheelchair because her left leg was crushed in a car accident. Martha knows that her other friends who are in grade 12 think Lizzy is annoying and ugly because of how she looks and since they must walk slower when Lizzy is with them. It just so happens to be Martha’s sweet 16 next month, she had been planning to discuss it with Lizzy on the walk home when her other friends pulled up beside her in their car.

“Hey Martha, want a ride home? It would be faster!” Sienna shouted through the rolled down car window. By now Martha and Lizzy had stopped walking and were staring at the girls in the car.

“Do you have room for Lizzy?” Martha immediately asked not wanting to leave Lizzy out. Sienna stared down at Martha and then looked to Lizzy scanning her up and down.

“There’s no room for someone that big.” Sienna snapped.

“Yeah, besides it’s not like we’re a truck, we don’t have room for the freak let alone their wheel-chair.” Another girl agreed with Sienna. The back window rolled down and Carla peaked her head out. The girls snickered as they whispered,

“Her parents must be ashamed, they produced a mistake.”

“I’m sure you’ll walk again Lizzy, you just have to stay positive.” The three girls laughed.

“So, what is it Martha? Are you getting in the car or staying with that freak?” Sienna spoke her last opinion.

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After reading the scenario please select the action that would be the best solution, or the action that you yourself would choose.

1) Get in the car and leave Lizzy behind.

2) Tell the girls “If you really want to know about mistakes, ask your parents.”

3) Tell Sienna that she isn’t going to get in the car, and probably not ever again after what they said to Lizzy.

4) Look at Sienna and tell her “It’s scary to think people like you are graduating from high school.”

5) Defend Lizzy and tell the girls that she’s not getting in the car with them ever again.

Comfort Lizzy after the girls leave.

 

Top Tip 101: Don’t make fun of others, it’s always going to come back to bite you. One other thing, trying to get the last say in a conversation doesn’t show your strength, it shows your inability to be the mature one and leave it alone.

4

Vicky Tries to Be Mean to Benny

It’s strange, I mean, if you’ve ever been on a school bus that takes you to school every day and brings you home in the afternoon you should know that it’s not just your age on the bus. I was in grade 4 at the time, and this guy named Benny, well I thought he was a real jerk. He was always being mean to me, tricking me, teasing me, everything, but I think it was partially my fault. I was always trying to talk to him and I think he was in grade 7. My brother was kind of friends with the guy, so he didn’t try and stop him when he was mean to me, said it was my fault.

Either way, one day Benny had one of those candy bottles of delicious liquid, if you don’t know what I mean, it’s like a little spray bottle that you push on and flavored liquid comes out, it could be anything from strawberry, sour apple, blueberry and much more. However, the flavor he had was an official flavor, good thing it isn’t. I had been staring at him when he was spraying it in his mouth the day before, and so finally the next day he noticed I had been staring and he asked me if I wanted some. He wasn’t a stranger okay, so I didn’t I should be wary of taking candy from my brothers so called friend.

Benny laughed and said okay, he squirted it in my mouth, and almost immediately after I regretted it. Whatever was in there was not what should be in there. I spit it out and licked my arm, trying to get the awful taste out of my mouth. Benny was now laughing hysterically with his friends and my brother. I was so furious with that guy, I just wanted to prove to him he couldn’t take advantage of me or tease me.

So, the next day or so I had scooted over to where he was and looked him straight in the face and told him

“You’re a dumb ass.” I was suddenly overcome with a feeling of shame, I felt horrible. I knew I did something wrong. That’s when Benny chuckled and hollered the bus drivers name

“NANCY! Victoria swore!” Nancy looked through her mirror and looked back at where I was and questioned me,

“Victoria, did you swear?” I shook my head no, I did not want my parents to find out that I swore, if they did I’d be in massive trouble.

“All I did was call him a donkey!” Nancy sighed and said that she didn’t want to hear anything about me doing something again. Not before long, Benny had turned to me and said,

“I bet you don’t even know how to spell dumb.” I was so confident that I told him of course I could, that I knew how. I had said that I needed a piece of paper and pencil to spell it. He opened his binder and found a loose page for me to write on. On the page, I wrote “Dum” I didn’t know how to spell back then obviously. To this day, I can remember how Benny just sat back and started laughing, telling me that no, I don’t know how to spell it. He told me, you spell it with a b at the end. Once again, I didn’t manage to prove him wrong.

It just so happens to be that no matter how hard I would try to prove him wrong I couldn’t, when I think about it now, I realize that I couldn’t prove him wrong because I wasn’t right. Sure, he wasn’t in the right either when he squirted that awful stuff in my mouth, but if you think about it, I shouldn’t have asked in the first place. Want to know why?

Your parents say, don’t accept candy from a stranger, but let me tell you, just because you know someone, don’t take candy from them either. Only take candy from the store when you buy it, or when your parents give some to you. Or of course other obvious reasons that you could take candy.

Top Tip 101: You can’t be right if you’re wrong, before acting find out whether your statements are true or if they’re just facts that you pulled off the ground, because in some cases those facts could just be chewed up bubble gum that people spit on the ground. They’re facts that aren’t wanted since they’re harmful or just because they’re false.

 

5

Quiz Time!

And now it’s time for a quiz, the part of the book where Vikki comes out and quizzes you on what you have read and hopefully learned so far, as well as some extra questions.

Question #1

            Do you consider yourself popular?

  1. A) No, I do not. B) Yes, but I’m not mean. C) Yes, I am popular. D) Popularity isn’t real.

A [ ] B [ ] C [ ] D [ ]

Question #2

            Do you still have friends from kindergarten through grade 4?

  1. A) Yes, but we’re not besties anymore. B) C) Yes, we’re besties! D) I moved.

A [ ] B [ ] C [ ] D [ ]

Question #3

            Should you be nice to your enemy/Are you nice to your enemy?

  1. A) Absolutely not! B) Sure, why not? C) Yes, you should. D) I don’t want to.

A [ ] B [ ] C [ ] D [ ]

Question #4

            How difficult is it for you to be honest, even when your words may be hurtful or unpopular? (On a scale of 1-10, 1 being the least difficult and 10 being the most difficult.)

  1. A) 1-3 B) 4-6 C) 7-9 D) 10

A [ ] B [ ] C [ ] D[ ]

Question #5

            Have you ever been pressured into something by a friend?

  1. A) Yes B) No C) I pressured them D) Yes, but it wasn’t a bad thing.

A [ ] B [ ] C [ ] D [ ]

 

 

 

 

Now comes the time where you will find out your average mentality on the questions from this chapter and the previous scenario in chapter 3.

Scenario #1

            If you chose 1, then I would like you to consider how you would have felt if your friend left you behind just because their other friends didn’t like you? Don’t you think you would have felt abandoned? Next time you see someone being left out, why don’t you try and invite them to hang out with you and your friends?

If you chose 2, do you think that insulting someone would get you any further in life? Do you normally insult people just to feel better about yourself? Just because you’re defending your friend doesn’t make insulting right, two wrongs don’t make a right.

If you chose 3, I would say that yes, that yes it was good to tell Sienna that you weren’t getting in the car with her ever again, however, do you think that Lizzy might think you were avoiding the fact of what they said to her? After all you didn’t really stand up for Lizzy, let alone try and comfort her.

If you chose 4, are you any better? You’re still poking sticks at them, maybe they’re not on fire like theirs were but that doesn’t matter. You still contributed to the battle. Next time think about how you can be the better person and not get back at them.

If you chose 5, congratulations! That is exactly what I suggest someone do to stand up for their friend. Walk away, leave them be. Inform them that whatever they say to your friend is not right, tell your friend that it’s okay, none of what they said was true.

Quiz Time! (Evaluation/Inspiration)

            Question #1

A B C D
Stay true to yourself and never let go, because the moment you do is the moment you submit to the things that people tell you and want you to be, not being who you want to be; not being you.

-Unknown

 

You don’t have to be popular, just be you.

“Being known by everyone is not the same as being loved.”

― Dean Koontz, Saint Odd

 

Just remember that being popular isn’t always what it seems, remember to keep your true friends close, and your enemies even closer.

Sometimes being popular is good and bad, because everybody is looking up to you. So, the more they look up to you they start to judge you.

-Unknown

 

You don’t have to be mean to be popular.

 

 

Say what you feel, it’s not being rude. It’s being real. Better be truthful than illusive.

-Malika E Nura

 

Don’t let others control you, they don’t care what happens to you in the long run anyways.

 

 

           

            Question #2

A B C D
 

Drifting apart from people who used to be your best friends is the hardest thing ever.

-Unknown

 

Take it from me, it’s hard. But one day you will find a friend who may even be better than the last one and more caring.

 

 

 

 

Don’t be sad or afraid when you start losing friends, be glad you’re getting rid of the fake ones. Stay true to yourself.

-Terry Mark

 

Don’t worry, not everyone is meant to be your friend. If you read the book, you’ll know what I mean.

 

Only your best friends will tell you the truth and bear the risk of losing the friendship because they can’t afford to watch you lose your life.

-Terry Mark

 

I know my brother had the best friends that would risk losing him as a friend in order to help him out.

 

 

Time changes people no matter how much we don’t want it to. But no one can stop time, it just keeps moving forward, and so should you.

-Kayla Hawk

 

Moving away from your old house means a new house, it means new opportunities. Rejoice in the new exploration!

 

 

 

            Question #3

A B C D
Being nice to someone you dislike doesn’t mean you’re FAKE. It means you are mature enough to tolerate your dislike towards them.

-Unknown

 

You don’t have to be mean to someone who’s mean to you, be the better man/woman.

 

Always be nice to people. No matter how bad they are to you. Show them you are not like them.

-Louis Tomlinson

 

Let’s try and get that sure into a “YES!” Because the world needs more good people.

 

 

You can’t always be nice. That’s how people take advantage of you. Sometimes you have to set boundaries.

-Unknown

 

I know, yes you do need to be nice to people, but sometimes you can be too nice. I learnt that the hard way.

 

 

Being too nice gets you used and being too mean pushes people away. You should be nice but you should also put your foot down if you have to.

-Unknown

 

I didn’t want to be nice either, but I thought it was better than hating people.

 

 

         

 

           

Question #4

A B C D
Before lying to one who trusts you remember one of the difficult things to do is to build trust after it has been broken.

-Anurag Prakash Ray

 

I broke the trust of my parents once, it’s one of the worst things that can happen. Especially losing your parents trust.

 

You’re going to meet people who lie to get what they want, but they teach you a valuable lesson. Who not to trust.

-Unknown

 

Some people become the people you can’t trust, but other times you become the person others can’t trust.

 

Cheaters accuse you of cheating..liars accuse you of lying. insecure people make you feel insecure…pay attention to how people treat you, its a reflection of who they really are.

-Unknown

 

Don’t be someone who makes others feel insignificant.

 

Lying is always a mistake. if you’ve done something wrong just tell the truth so you won’t commit two mistakes.

-Dennis Delos Santos

 

I find it hard to tell the truth quite frequently. I was taught as a child to tell the truth so now I feel bad if I lie. I always end up telling the truth somehow.

 

            Question #5

A B C D
Is a temporary ‘reputation’ really worth losing all of your hopes and dreams? The biggest downfall to people’s lives today is peer pressure.

-Unknown

 

I peer pressured myself once, it’s actually quite easy you know.

 

It’s not peer pressure if I decide to do it. it’s MY choice.

-Unknown

 

If you have ever thought like in the above quote, then yes, it’s still peer pressure. You have fallen victim to peer pressure.

Don’t pick on others if you can’t yourself take criticisms. If you have to criticize, be constructive.

-Mufti Ismail Menk

 

Would you want someone else to peer pressure you? Do you really think it’s all that good? Maybe it was a mistake, but let’s learn from the mistakes.

 

Letting others guide your future through their uninvited comments is permitting them to push you off a cliff and hope for the best…you either stand your ground or let others lead you to disaster.

-Frederick A Babb

 

It’s not good either way, peer pressure that is.

 

 

Hopefully the quiz questions and the responses to each answer helped you in some way or form.

 

6

10 Important Questions to Ask Yourself

Have you ever wondered, “Who am I?” Well if you have, or even if you haven’t these questions listed below are for you to ask yourself, think about them, and answer honestly. You don’t have to write them below, but you can if you choose to do so.

These questions may come in handy later in life.

Question #1

What are you passionate about?

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Question #2

            What are the most important things to you in life?

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Question #3

            How would you describe yourself?

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Question #4

            What are your values? What do you represent? What do you want to embody?

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Question #5

            Do you love yourself? Why or why not?

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Question #6

            What is your ideal self? What does it mean to be your highest self?

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Question #7

            What advice would you give to yourself 3 years ago?

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Question #8

            Is there something you’re still holding on to? Is it time to let it go?

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Question #9

            For every experience, you get: What are the biggest things you have learned?

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Question #10

            Is there anything you are running away from?

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Keeping in mind the questions you have now read; do you think they hit home? Are they helping you realize something that you maybe didn’t realize before?

In the next chapter, we will discuss how talking to God can help you, we will also focus on why God allows bad things to happen to a good person. By the title of this book I’m assuming you may have noticed that it was going to hit home on religion at some point. If you feel uneasy about religion, feel free to skip the following chapter. However, I highly recommend it to everyone.

           

 

7

Why do bad things happen to good people?

Have you ever heard the story of Job? When I was younger I would ask my mom, “What did I ever do? Why does God let bad things happen to me?” Each time her response to me was, “Do you remember the story of Job? How God let bad things happen to him?” After she would tell me that we would sit down and read part of Job. Now that I’m older her response is still the same, but now I read Job on my own.

Here are a few passages from the book of Job.

1 In the land of Uz there lived a man whose name was Job. This man was blameless and upright; he feared God and shunned evil.

8 Then the Lord said to Satan, “Have you considered my servant Job? There is no one on earth like him; he is blameless and upright, a man who fears God and shuns evil.”

9 “Does Job fear God for nothing?” Satan replied. 10 “Have you not put a hedge around him and his household and everything he has? You have blessed the work of his hands, so that his flocks and herds are spread throughout the land. 11 But now stretch out your hand and strike everything he has, and he will surely curse you to your face.”

12 The Lord said to Satan, “Very well, then, everything he has is in your power, but on the man himself do not lay a finger.”

Then Satan went out from the presence of the Lord.”

After Satan had left the presence of the Lord he began to cause disturbances in Job’s life. At the end, Job had lost his family, his servants, and all his animals. Yet, through all that Job still held onto God. It says;

“At this, Job got up and tore his robe and shaved his head. Then he fell to the ground in worship 21 and said:

“Naked I came from my mother’s womb,

and naked I will depart.[c]

The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away;

may the name of the Lord be praised.”

22 In all this, Job did not sin by charging God with wrongdoing.”

So, when we wonder why God let’s bad things happen to good people, I’ve come to realize that he allows those bad things so we can grow stronger in our faith. God wants us to grow closer to him, and what better way than putting us in a situation that usually causes us to call out to God?

Have you ever noticed that when things are going great and nothing is wrong, you don’t call out to God or talk to him as much? I know it’s like that for me, yet when things are going bad I constantly call out to God, needing to hear him, needing help. Sometimes when we are going through hard times, God won’t answer, there’s a reason for that too.

Teachers don’t give you answers while you’re writing a test, do they? So why should God speak while we are taking his test?

Top Tip 101: When everything is going well, don’t forget to talk to God. He loves to hear from you, he loves to hear your voice. Don’t forget that even when things are hard and it doesn’t feel like God is there, he is. He’s always right there by your side.

 

(c) 2017 Thrifty Girl

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